If you haven't noticed by now, all of my posts since I started up my blog again are just a stream of consciousness . There is no rhyme or reason to it. It seems that Candice and Scott are the only ones that read this, so i might as well just print this off and hand it too them, but that defeats the propose of blogging.
I often ask questions that I already know the answer too just to see the reaction of the person that I am speaking with. Many times that creates awkward situations. I am not fond of awkwardness but sometimes it is fun to see how people react. I like to break little social norms to see what happens. Like in an elevator, I will stand too close to another person to see if they will move away, not touching them or even looking at them, but just close. 9 times out of 10 the person will move away from me. I mark that as a victory because I made someone do something without them even knowing that I wanted them to do it. Or walking up to someone while staring right at them as if you wanted to speak to them and then walking right past them, it is hilarious, you can see their mind racing, thinking "what does he want? do I know him? what should I say?" they start to open their mouth to say something just as you pass and I can hear their thoughts following me "what was that about? was he looking at me? who was that?" (Word of advice, don't try this on people that you know. They won't think its funny, even thought it is).
I find human behavior to be amazing, 90% of the time you can predict exactly what someone is going to do. Social norms demand a certain response and they give it. But 10% of the time you get results that are unpredictable. These are the things that amaze me. Sometimes I am baffled thinking "who in their right mind would do that?"
I like to try out my "Sherlock sense," my ability to deduce things about people by examining their behavior and possessions. I am not as good at it as Sherlock Holmes but sometimes I amaze myself with what I can figure out. I find it easier to deduce things about girls, for two reasons: 1. I spend far more time looking at girls than I do looking at guys. 2. Girls show their emotions more freely than guys. But you have to be careful, because girls can put on a show but truly be something completely different inside (sometimes that really freaks me out). Normally I can tell if a girl is putting on a show, but sometimes they can really catch me off guard.
On a side note: I think it is very unattractive when girls call other girls "whores," "sluts," "tramps" or any thing in that spectrum. I don't see how anyone could possibly find that attractive at all.
Some guys like flat out stupid girls. I think that is ridiculous. I am not saying that a girl has to be a genius for me to go out with her but she should at least be able to carry on a conversation. That said I think I will now go through a list of things that I find attractive in a girl, this should be interesting.
Number one and foremost, a girl that is sincerely kind. It is like a breath of fresh air. A girl that is honestly kind and caring is the most wonderful thing to behold. Insults and derogatory words are ugly and can make the most beautiful girl look like an old hag. A girl that is full of honest compliments becomes more beautiful as you get to know her. She becomes as beautiful as her words.
Number two, confidence. I think that confidence is very becoming. A girl that is confident in herself is also likely to be kind, because she does not feel the need to degrade others to make herself feel better. By confidence I don't mean proud. I mean that she is driven, strong and doesn't care what others will say.
Number three, intelligence. I like to talk. I cannot imagine how terrible it would be to be stuck for the rest of my life with a woman that couldn't contribute to the conversation.
Number four, integrity and honesty. I don't think that this needs much explaining. The earth would be a whole lot better with just a little bit more integrity.
Number five, fire. I am not attracted at all to passive girls that let themselves be controlled or run-over, I like a girl that has spunk and loves a challenge.
This is not all, but this will have to do for now.
A lot of things that I find attractive in girls are not very popular these days. Especially integrity. So it may take me a while to find a girl that meets my standards.
1 comment:
The stuff you were describing about the elevator and looking at people while approaching and then walking by made me laugh. It is exactly the kind of thing that I loved most in my psychology studies at BYU. Whether or not you realized it, you love social psychology, which was my favorite facet of psychology as well. I love learning about the little things we can do to violate social norms and affect human behavior.
As far as the perfect girl, I like your criteria. It suits you very well. It may take some searching, but I have no doubt that some girl out there will be able to match all of those criteria and then some. It just takes hard work and patience.
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